Have you ever experienced unconditional love in a moment when you felt as if you didn’t deserve it? If you have, then you would know that experiencing unconditional love, gives you an extra ounce of courage to believe again and untangles the thorns that choke your heart.
Surgeon Richard Seltzer in Mortal Lessons “Notes on the Art of Surgery” brilliantly describes a moving display of unconditional love between a patient and her husband.
“I stand by the bed where a young woman lies, her face postoperative, her mouth twisted in palsy, clownish. A tiny twig of the facial nerve, the one to the muscles of her mouth, has been severed. She will be thus from now on.
The surgeon had followed with religious fervor the curve of her flesh; I promise you that. Nevertheless, to remove the tumor in her cheek, I had to cut that little nerve.
Her young husband is in the room. He stands on the opposite side of the bed, and together they seem to dwell in the evening lamplight, isolated from me. Who are they, I ask myself, he and this wry-mouth I have made, who gaze at and touch each other so generously, greedily?
The young woman speaks. ‘Will my mouth always be like this?’ she asks.
‘Yes,’ I say, ‘it will. It is because the nerve was cut.’
She nods, and is silent.
But the young man smiles. ‘I like it,’ he says, ‘It is kind of cute.’
All at once I know who he is. I understand, and I lower my gaze. One is not bold in an encounter with a god.
Unmindful, he (the husband) bends to kiss her crooked mouth, and I [am] so close I can see how he twists his own lips to accommodate to hers, to show her that their kiss still works.”
Behind many of the plastered smiles and positive banter we encounter every day are hearts that are emotionally and spiritually burdened, twisted and crooked; hearts that are longing for someone to see the crack in their smile and hear the perfectly hidden sadness in their chirpy responses.
Within our homes, offices and social circles, are persons who are hungry for unconditional love – a love that looks beyond their sin-stemmed imperfections, twists, crookedness, and disfigurements and sees and appreciates their worth and value as a child of God.
Today, let us choose to be loving to the precious pearls and persons God has ushered into our lives, like the husband in Seltzer’s account. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13: 35.
This week, take the initiative; intentionally reach out to three persons and shower them with the kiss of acceptance, love and support. Sprinkle their lives with a love that whispers, “I see you. I care for you. I am here for you. You matter to God so you matter to me.” You may have to leave your comfort zone or embrace the individuals in your friendship zone to accomplish this; be daring but be guided by the Holy Spirit.
Let our love this week impart hope, strength and comfort to others. Let our love become the reason others do not allow their mistakes, shame and struggles to become the final verdict of their lives but rather an opportunity to experience the grace of God. Let our love be the reason others choose to walk away from the numbing mechanisms they have become addicted to and embrace a new, abundant way of living.
Someone in your life longs for one true friend —- They have been praying for a divinely magnetic friendship. They need a personal friend, an in the flesh god whose actions are dotted with the characteristics of the one true God. Would you be that one true friend this week?
Let me know of the magic that takes place in your heart after you intentionally shower your three love-targets with unconditional love this week.
(c) 2014, Dentrecia Blanchette