“Be about it”

Regardless of our best intentions, sometimes our actions don’t align with our words. We make empty promises, often to gain the trust and affection of another and in a second of disappointment or shifting tides or emotions within the relationship, our words die a slow death.

Love demands consistent positive actions; love demands more than words or a declaration. It’s not an announcement, it is a commitment to doing the necessary things needed to sustain and foster growth within the relationship. True love requires personal action and if we are in love with our partners, we will demonstrate our love in ways that they can understand and appreciate.

Jesus loved with his actions. In John 21: 16 he says, “If you love me, feed my sheep.” John 14: 15, “If you love me keep my commandments.” Romans 5:8  says that: “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” God not only spoke a word but He fulfilled the promises made. God spoke but he also fulfilled the promises that were spoken. We too, are to look to this Great Love Model and exemplify that habit in our relationships. We ought to be about it more than we speak about it.

I believe words become unnecessary at times in a relationship because your actions will scream I LOVE YOU to your partner. This is in keeping with those whose primary love language is Words of Affirmation…even when you appreciate this language the most, the actions of your partner must coincide with those words; otherwise they will be empty words.

There are many opportunities for us to show love for God and each other in our relationships. The opportunities are unending. It takes time to SHOW our love but declarations of love that are backed up by performance always work for our good and in our favor. And sometimes, nothing says I love you more than being forgiving and kind to your partner especially when they have disappointed us. So demonstrate your love to your partner, start off small, we all know that it’s the small things that win us over and make the world of a difference. Choose to spend time together, give them a call, plan a date, choose to exercise together, choose to assist with some house chores or cook a meal for them, send them a “I am thinking about you” text…everyone wants to know that through actions, their spouse is thinking about them, even when their shift or workload is demanding. Through thoughtful actions, we can demonstrate our love to our partners. Be creative but in small, steady ways, show your partner that you are “more about it than speaking about it.”

– Dee

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