Nothing bruises the heart like loneliness. It reaches within the crevices of our hearts, finds our tender veins and with a deathly grip it squeezes until the veins in our hearts are dried up, brittle and brown, like a raisin in the sun.
Loneliness – his lethal pangs are experienced by every race, class and nationality. And sometimes, he plays tricks with us, one minute he is silent and we believe that he has vanished and then in an instant he reappears with more force than the last time, almost as if he because silent to gain more strength.
Loneliness – it is unbearable, it seems untreatable and unshakeable at times.
He leaves us with a deep thirst for acceptance, meaningful companionship, transformational connections and unconditional love. This seemingly unquenchable thirst leads us into diverse places, to commit extreme acts. Loneliness often leads us to self-medicate – to try anything to make it go away. It leads us to sexual relationships that rob us of our self worth. It leads us to accept the ill treatment of others, holding unto something that causes us more pain than relief. It leads us to an active nightlight, busy schedules and loaded to-do lists, forcing us to think that the more activity or individuals we habour in our lives, the more loneliness will be eclipse. It leads us to keep holding unto those bitter emotions because letting go would mean having to face the ogre loneliness.
Loneliness leads us to dark places; and in the darkness, we try to escape his grasp. To escape loneliness we take the drugs. To escape loneliness we search for love in all the wrong places. To escape the loneliness we sleep with anyone. To escape the loneliness we attend the parties. To escape the loneliness, we live glue to social media. To escape the loneliness, we emotionally eat. To escape the loneliness, we let the music drown the voices inside.
We search in high and low places to quench the thirst but fail miserably every time. But there is a source who can quench this burning fire-like ogre called loneliness. His name is Jesus. And the truth is, our loneliness is a symptom of a hole in our heart that only God can fill. Our loneliness is a cry for a deeper relationship with a God who understands every burden and who sees the depths of our human heart and still loves us unconditionally. Our cries for affection are cries for a deeper walk with God. The God who fully understands our loneliness because he as well was despised and rejected of men and left alone on a cross to die. He understands our emotions.
I encourage you to turn to the only source who can quench the painful fire of loneliness in your life. Turn to Jesus. You have tired every other escape but have you tried God?
Our God understands our wordless groans, the language of our tears and every loaded beat of our aching hearts. In faith, I admonish you to seek God through prayer…tell Him of what hurts and allow Him to send His Holy Spirit into your heart to comfort you.
Ellen G. White says in Desire of Ages, p. 669, “At all times and in all places, in all sorrows and in all afflictions, when the outlook seems dark and the future perplexing, and we feel helpless and alone, the Comforter will be sent in answer to the prayer of faith. Circumstances may separate us from every earthly friend; but no circumstance, no distance, can separate us from the heavenly Comforter. Wherever we are, wherever we may go, He is always at our right hand to support, sustain, uphold, and cheer.”
Seek God through prayer. Speak to Him as a friend. Feel His presence. Accept His gift of peace.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matt 11: 28.
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